I have reached a dilema...Usually when people come up and greet you they usually say, "Hello, how are you doing?" or "Hey! What have you been up to?" At this point, you have two choices which could lead to a lot more. You can either A.) respond back in the polite way saying, "Hey, doing great, so so, or ok. Yourself?" and get stuck in superfiscial conversations that are pointless, or you can B.) say, "Hey. My day has been terrible," or "Man I am tired all I do is work and school," and then continue on about how your day has really been. I mean what if they just say it to be nice and don't really give a .02 cents for you? Do you actually think that they are going to listen? Most likely, when ever you give response B.) you will be met with fake sympathetic words and fascial expressions that are dying to move on to the next subject. I think there are multiple facets to this dilema that all cary heavy determining factors.
First, in the eyes of the person that greets and pops the question. An examination of their intentions must be processed to really determine what they are asking. On one side they could just be coming up to you for a favor, need, or just to be polite, or on the other side they could be someone that does have feelings for you and cares for your well being and has a heart to listen. The real tribulation is discerning where the person stands.
Second, in the eyes of the person that is going to be greeted. This person has a lot at risk for them because automatically your response is going to immediately determine the course of the entire conversation. Another side effect of your response is the immediate judgment that will be brought upon you after the first sentence comes to your mouth. So in the mind of this person, they are struggling thinking, tell them how my day is really going, or just fluff them up with the garbage that they probably want to hear. The problem is that if you give the fake answer then the questionare may suspect that this person is week and has no indepth conversation skills, on the other hand if you blow them out of their shoes with the full story of how your day, let alone your week or month has been the worst in your entire life, then you also have a high probability of being met with a skepticisim in the future when ever this person approaches you. Oh, wait! There is more! One thing is that what if you are single or if you have no one to talk to and so this may be your only chance to vent to an open ear and yet they don't really care for what you say? Yet another turndown the results in the continuing down stroke of your day.
Another question that also might be addressed is, "is it polite to tell someone your days story or just give a simple one-two word response?" Your mother may have tought you not to open your big mouth when people ask you these understated questions but yet some may have had parrents that didn't care about social ettiquite and there fore you bore open one's ear with a life story that is actually only a day in length.
For me personally this is kind of hard, but for you it may be easy. I like to think that I am someone who is real and gives his all to everything that is asked of him, including listening and speaking. Also, my parrents pretty much tought me social ettiquite to the best extent for which I could listen. But at this age and enviroment I am in I often find a deaf ear turned to me in these situations. I guess what I am trying to say is that so often I really want to tell people the way my day is going or how I have been lately because to tell the truth I feel burnt out after every single week. Unfortunenately, people just often greet my words with little to no attention and I'm left standing by myself in a cold world wondering where have all the good people gone. As observing in my past couple of blogs, I have been through a hard ride within the past few weeks. Though I start to believe things get easier, I find myself getting pulled in all dirrections with everyone and everything wanting a piece of me. At this point, it is really easy to just become a work-ahollic and just to devote myself to school and work giving to nothing else unless it falls in those two categories. Since the break up, it is unbelievably easy to just shut every one out. It seems like it would be easier, but its really not. I realized that in full with this past week. All my friends were in town from spring break and called me several times to try to hang out but because of my demanding mentality I just told them that I was busy and that I would get back to them. It is now the end of the week and I am paying for not investing myself into friendships that I have had for over 8 years.
But one thing that I have noticed looking back onto my past hard breakups and the situation I'm in now, I have observed that rejection fuels the fire within me to change to a stricter, more well refined person that can withstand higher tollerances...and that my friend ain't that bad.
Best Wishes, Joshua Price